I’m popping in to give you a quick recap on what was discussed in our 7/20 community coaching call and hope that the topics spur some self-reflection and curiosity - two practices that support our own healing and growth journeys immensely!

When our kiddos give us “feedback”, we often want to defend our hard work, how much better we are than our parents, etc. I mean, you’re in this community so I imagine you’re very intentional about how you’re parenting! Here’s the thing, kids just need their needs met, even our adult kids, and their need might be to feel seen and heard in that moment. We can take a deep breath when we feel discomfort, give them a warm smile and say something like “I hear that. Is there anything else?”. You might also ask them if a repair is needed and how you can make one if you get a yes. THEN, you can process the convo later with your therapist, friend, parenting partner, whomever as long as it’s not with your kiddo that is giving you the feedback. This is not easy work AND if our goal is to have healthy, connected relationships with our kids then we can lean into these hard conversations.

We also discussed highly sensitive kiddos, how much energy it takes to NOT ACCEPT what is, how to hand people back their story that they are projecting onto you (I also made a Tik Tok about this, are you following me?) and finally, we talked about how acknowledging that our parents did their best but their best may not have been enough for us to be happy, healthy grown ups without doing some healing and growing. I’ll dive deeper into these topics in future posts/coaching calls!